About changes

'In the therapy, we use thought to change the feeling. Generally, when they are feeling down, they tend to generalised things. "i always have this, i always fail to.." they use always very often and negative thinking occupies their head. slowly when it keeps on being repeated in their mind, it sounds valid. so what we need to do is challenge the thinking. "Is it always..., ?" "haven't u ever achieved something" the they'll start to think and say " aaaa, not always..there are times when.." then they realise how much they've achieved so far.
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it's not easy. i can say that because i've been at both ends. i know that when we're feeling down and dump, nothing sounds right. we just want things to go our way, no matter what. fair enough, everybody has desires. the frustration, the angst, the sadness....they block the mind.

also, listening to strong emotions are tough. there are times when i, myself feel hopeless. it takes understanding that the person isnt shoving us away whenever they disagree or left the conversation, but they are just too miserable. fair enough. i try really hard not to give false hopes, thats why sometimes my words can be a little bit not-of-what-they-wanna-hear. i dunno, its a juggle between giving consolation and bringing them back to reality. the best i can do is really, listen.